Did I ruin this blind date by saying too much? Or is he a jerk?

I am so fed up with Dating. The men I am attracted to tend to fall on the HOT good looking side, with that tend do be a little arrogant. I met this nice, very handsome man online. I am in late 30's and just haven't settled - very picky. He is 45 and told me on the phone in a joking way he is Hotter in person and then jokingly said everyone asks why a good looking man, successful man is single...he told me in sarcastic way he has issues that's why he is not married..but was he joking? He and I really clicked on phone....we were both funny, sarcastic and outgoing...we really clicked.o he told me in rhetoric ways "we are going to get married - how many kids we want blah blah" so b4 we meet he goes anything u have to tell me. I just lost alot of weight and I am still insecure get hard on myself b/c some guys in LA get all weird about having curves and being a little thick. He sounded like he want's a trophy wife- and yes I am hot...but c'mon...I have to validate to him. He has everything going for him, he was sweet on phone, handsome, successful. Why was he saying I feel like we know eachother- like hinting we click so much. He was joking saying our kids will be hot etc. Anyhow...so I was few min late when we met...I had a lil drink b4 I met him..b/c I was nervous...and it kicked in after having another drink with him..so I said a few arrogant things jokingly...like what my sign was, I said I can be bossy...i was being cute...he said not with me- I am the boss...we were talking about astrology and he seemed condescending. So, I happen to unfortunately be attracted to good looking *******...why? I was so attracted to him...but he was sick few days b4...so we just met for a drink and he ended the date in hour- wasn't feeling well. My ego was hurt- so I said jokingly you are so not interested..he goes why are you saying things diff now..I was a little outspoken b/c frusteration and the wine..lol...we left I texted him 2 times..all he said was Happy NY, and thanks Im feeling better. What happened? Can I write him - telling him I presented myself wrong...kinda know it will hurt me-but i want to know was I too thick...what did i do? If I email saying look we clicked on the phone so well - what happened? I want him to know I don't act that way..I was not drunk...just talkative...he sounds like a prat..but help? Should I move on?